i want my boyfriend to get rid of his dog

Theres highly rated dog food for 1.1/kg but she wouldnt think of it. if the puppy pees I get yelled at. I havent been able to talk to my bf much about it as Im scared it will lead into a huge fight and hell breakup with me over it. So she peed all night in front of my daughters door. My boyfriend and I recently (within the past 3 years) bought a home and our first Dog (a rescue) shortly after, my mother fell in love with her, she got one of her own. I constantly took her outside so she wouldnt poop inside and rewarded her w/ w positive praise. It has been very sad at times when I miss my gf. Growing up any dogs I lived with were taught rules from the jump. Dogs are often food motivated and will cling to the person who feeds it. I will, however, say I love my dog. The steroids made her urinate excessively, unbeknownst to us. I am fine until he lets her inside, sure she sleeps on the floor on a matt by the door but I cant take it anymore, I dont know what to do! My point is, My wife is cool with me laying some ground rules down because THEY ARE DOGS. Should you have gotten the dog without consulting him? Also this puppy is a Pitbull and my partner knows Im scared of these types of dogs. I made my son sleep in the basement because a rat dog is more important than my family.. What other demands are you going to make of him? So am I the asshole for being fed up with having to do everything for a dog he wanted and promised to take care of? Of course, he farts, breathes heavy and eats like a beast but that is not really his fault but it doesnt endear him to me anymore so by doing so. I mean, dogs shed. I realized the my needs werent being met, my requests were being ignored and as awesome as my exs dog was, the fact that he showered her with affection while I only received 1/4 of that same care just wasnt okay. I have owned and loved pets all my life, as part of my family, but they never usurped my human family members. Ive tried my hardest to train her, and even my boyfriend (of 4 years ) has made several concessions. She was prescribed Zovirax, which she takes whenever it starts to head it off or lessen it. I say someone who cant stand dog hair isnt a true dog lover. I failed to mention before that the dog now bites her when she bathes himwhat to do??? If you cant accept that sort of all-encompassing commitment then dont get a dog. Im a mess right now. If i made any of you guys live with something you hated you will 100% get it. He is so impulsive when he eats and throws up his food then eats it up again! If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. BF got mad when he first saw itwhat is that? REALLY. It wasnt a matter of loving an animal, it was that he made me feel he was in love with the dog and it broke my heart over and over again. If she needs the vet or nails trimmed, I transport her there and pay with his money. Im about fed up with this dog and ready to get rid of it but I know my boyfriend is not. My bf make excuses for the dog. Im a huge dog lover. Im scared that this puppy is gonna get very aggressive at him and he will blame me. Shes a decently trained dog though, she knows to do her business outside, she listens after the third time you tell her and for the most part is well mannered. For some reason she feels this is unfair. IMO dogs are pack animals and do better in family situations anyway, so being forced into a solitary situation with one single person creates a LOT of anxiety and behavior problems (aka, like your girlfriends dog). My bf always allowed his dog to sleep with him, then we moved in together and I said absolutely not. They can easily be steped on. My husband and I are separated. You should be able to talk with him. Why would you do that? This dog is seriously making my life hell. Id chosen the colour of the carpets and walls and was so excited showing him. Possibly one month would be enough. Like I said it would be one thing if they would get up off their rears and help, but they dont. I dont care what people say. I have a similar problem, my boyfriend, my 2 cats & I have been living together over 5yrs. I compromised on many things. I asked her to cage the dogs out of the kitchen while we ate and she was saying I was being cruel because they just wanted to be in there with us but I insisted that those big drooling farting dogs just beg at the table and its not cruel at all. If he had told me from the off Id have understood but I feel that he has lied to me and mislead me for 8 years, and only now that my dream of owning a dog had almost come true, as silly as it may seem, has he told me it wont happen. So basically, my bf and I live on opposite sides of the house. Maybe your husband or children have allergies to dogs. They may be old dogs but he wants them around so hell likely get more dogs once these die and they would be younger for more years of pain. BTW I dont see them as Pets more like my children considering I had miscarriages and stuff and they keep me happy. I feel like thats sort of evil and that she lied about who she was. He's allowed to have a dog. They cannot talk. When the dog is not around, (because his dad will take the dog to camp with him) everything is great, but when the dog comes back its terrible. Enough to break the marriage? We could sell her to avoid the arguments but it was brought for my daughter who would be upset immensely if we lost her. Im honestly so angry, what is even more frustrating is he sees no problem with this at all, Im starting to think I will never change his opinion and he will never compromise. Now, let us go back nine years in time. Im married 13 years, we had a small dog for 8 years and she died from heart problems. This is not a new situation but was the same as when we met. He works on his own time and has more than enough time and energy to take care of her properly. Copyright 2013 GoodTherapy.org. The longer you stay the harder it gets!! They are allowed to be in the kitchen begging constantly at your heels and their breath becomes what you taste when you eat. The preceding article was solely written by the author named above. It violates their commitment to their dog. I told her how her mom said before they got their dog that he was left alone in their house, and her response was, yeah, and who knows how long he was howling for! She makes no effort to break this habit either, which pisses me off. I can hardly stand the dog at all anymore but I love him to pieces! I remarried a man with a huge female Labrador Retriever. He knows I cant stand and absolutely My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and in the past year he was my biggest supporter on me finally getting a dog of my ownwell now a year or so later my dog still needs lots of training but my boyfriend has simply made it clear he will never move in or get a place with me if I have my dog . Where am I supposed to go to? If you dont agree he will eventually walk out and I domt blame a man for leaving a women who doesnt want to improve their situation but keep baying a dog its not a baby its a dog. This is where the problem comes in, his Godchild got him a puppy for his birthday, his birthday was 2 months ago but he got the gift today. I may have said some misunderstood and vulgar things but frustration can do a lot of things to the mind. and has a nasty, intimidating growl anytime another dog comes near those things. Overall the dog has adapted very well. People get dogs for their own selfish reasons, treat them like humans, and it ends up being so detrimental to the poor dog. Actually I believe he may have been a narcissist. I even went for counseling to help me better understand this man, trying not to take baggage with me. My husband hates it and has no patience for it. Im sad to say that things have only gotten worse. good luck. He sees a dog and he looks SO happy. HOWEVER..my partner has suffered a brain injury and cant help but whine about and insult my dog. I had expressed my wish to adopt a cat in the past couple of years and he had responded that, even though he liked cats, he was not willing to get one. I am an animal lover. A little back story, my SO at the time also use to be a bit of a junkie and didnt really have a sense of self or respect. He had a new puppy and kitten.. Me being an animal lover was okay at first with the situation even tho I didnt want the cat indoors.. My daughter has a small allergy to cats. A dog lives 10 years tops, humans live avg 85 years.hmmm when dog dies, and it will, who will be there longer. I realize this is mental abuse, but hes very good at it, and, theres really nothing I can do, even though its all just to control me. I dont want this puppy to be a toy and go from home to home but no one seems my point. To say I fell in love with Oscar was an understatement, I was totally besotted by him, then 6 months later he was killed on the main road. Dogs only want to please their master and its up to you to spend the money or Time to learn how. He says Beau always has to be outside. He said the dog would look at him at night and then would get off the sofa and go to bed. I have mild allergies so she irritates my nose when in close proximity not to mention I think a dog in bed is so unsanitary. Well so am i!!!!!! Is it wrong of me after all day being with him and taking care of him to just want the night to myself and my boyfriend without the dog in there smelling up our room? Are you kidding me??? A found an add for a yorkiepoo for 250 bucks. My husband is constantly annoyed with our pets. Divorce him? A steak. This is a man that Anya had never witnessed first hand beating me as I always left her outside when we would get in a scuffle yet she would not yield. Ive been with my fiance for two years. The dog issues certainly are draining you of your time (and your sleep!). A dog or a cat is not important as much as your spouse. She has about 7 years left of her life so this is a very big commitment. It sounds like your husband has not taken the needed time to properly train his dog. Nor will he let me even attempt to give the dogs away. We got into a horrible fight recently over it, he agreed to see if giving his dog anxiety medication would help. Fortunately I dont have that issue. He used to sleep with both the dog and cat in bed before we lived together. A partner than doesnt take care of their dog, doesnt train it, give it exercise or give it what it needs ( not wants) is the problem not the dog. But her dog is the most annoying, uselesslets just say I could complain all day. (and the current caretakers dont want to keep them, they are also tired with all the pee and poop and hairs, so thats not an option). Instead, what you have to do is that identify what influences this disagreeable behavior. I respect animals and am even a vegetarian, I eat fish. On several occasions my wife has developed a sore on her lip that often takes a week or longer to heal. I really need to do something about this because Im getting to the point where Im willing to give him away but I know this is something my boyfriend refuses to do. The only problem is he is also a huge shedder which wasnt a problem before I got married because my Husky had a lovely home outside the house, until after I got married and my husband who is 50x times the animal lover than I am decided that its too cold in California for my husky to live outside he should move inside, it was hard for me to accept the work that was heading in front of me with the my darling husky moving inside and the heap of hair that will be coming into the house. In all reality, we technically cannot be as loyal to our partners as an animal companion can be. If someone wants to to change/abandon such a big part of your life it is a huge wake up call. I think I know who is wrong. But if they refuse to change and work on the problems with the animal.maybe they arent worth sticking around for because that is selfish behavior. Sadly since you have already brought it up to your partner and they dont respect you by compromising youre gonna be stuck and you should use this as a preview for what the rest of your relationship will look like. If you guys have financial issues and live on a budget, your husband/boyfriend will attempt to rehome the dog since you cannot afford him anymore. I have to tell him again and again because he just circles around. Although, I still find I question how a man could prefer a dog to a loving, slender, tender human wife? This is the exact way I feel. There is some anthropomorphising going on here but in the most negative and stupid way! You seriously CALL YOUR DOG TO BED?? currently, she sleeps in the bed with her, is very very clingy, moans if there is no constant attention and very manipulative. And I cant stand to think I have to take care of the dog after the baby is born. I transport her there and pay with his money that this puppy to be a toy and to... 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